I always thought I was pretty outgoing and that my life was filled with lots of great friends. As I got older I learned that I had a lot of people I knew and just a few really good friends. And now that I’ve moved from city to city chasing a dream I’ve realized that I don’t really have any friends. It’s like being the new kid in school year after year and just when you find people you really like it’s time to move again. And the friends I’d had since high school fade further and further away. It’s hard being the new kid in town.
Don’t get me wrong, I get to work with some great comics that I love. They’re intelligent and creative and salt of the earth people, but while I’m headed in this direction they’re headed in that direction and our paths rarely cross.
I’ve also learned in the last few years that I’m a lot more shy and awkward than I realized. Put me on stage in front of a few hundred people and I come to life. Put me in a room full of strangers and I shut down. I have no idea how to start a conversation with someone I don’t know and even less of an idea how to make a connection.
I think it’s the road. I remember when I used to have a normal life. Lived in one spot, worked at one place, had weekends off, went to Mary Kay parties or Pure Romance parties and had other women that I worked with and had things in common with. Life was definitely easier back then. Now I work when most people are off, I’m home and free while they’re working, and I’m probably going to be in a completely different state when they want to do get together and do something fabulous.
Today was a victory. I got on a show at The Comedy Store. It’s a big deal to me and a great night to go out and celebrate. But being the new kid in town I don’t have a single girlfriend yet to call. Luckily my son took pity on me and we went to dinner and a movie. I would have been truly lost tonight without him.
I guess the point to all this is to love the friends you have and don’t take them for granted. Be true, be honest and be there. Friends are important for everyone, but i think especially for women. We truly need the connection. We need friends. Good friends. Enduring friends. Women in our lives that have been where we’ve been, are going where we headed and that will have our backs no matter what. We need a friend that will cry with us, one that will tell us the truth no matter how hard, one that will show up no matter what time, and one that will love us no matter what we’ve done. Being a woman is too hard to do alone....it takes a village!